11 Writing blogs to follow to fix bad writing habits

Fix bad writing habits

  Good writing is often about how to fix bad writing habits as develop good ones like getting back into a writing routine. Since no one is an island unto themselves, we all need to learn from others. When we do, we learn that we are not alone. 

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Fix your bad writing habits for a more productive and happy writing lifestyle.
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There are tons of other writers out there who have had the same bad habits we are so frustrated with. More to the point, they show us we need not fear with those habits because there is a solution to fix bad writing habits. 

When we choose to eliminate those bad writing habits we often advance faster than by adding good new habits because those are often what has held us back. All we need is to find those writers we feel most like us who speak to us, then sit down read, learn and apply what they have to say with some focus. I have my personal likes. 

These are 12 of my favorite sources I go to for advice on fixing with bad writing habits.

 Steven Pressfield

Pressfield is a legend in writing. More than that he is professional, which is what he teaches. It’s all in the trenches, getting hosed, pragmatic work doled out gratis. 

Writing Wednesdays: The #1 Way I Screw Myself Up

Writing Wednesdays: Habit

The War of Art Mini-Course, Part 5 | Steven Pressfield

The Write Practice

How do you get to Broadway? Practice. The same is true for every skill, especially writing. The Write Practice facilitates a writer through developing habits and a dedicated writing practice. 

3 Bad Writing Habits Preventing You From Writing (And How to Break Them)

5 Tips for Spring Cleaning Your Writing Habits

Daily Routines of Writers: Using the Power of Habits and Triggers to Write Every Day

Make a Living Writing

Make a Living Writing is Carol Tice’s freelance writing blog based on her successful work. Her blog covers the freelance writing career with several plenty of free educational resources. 

Writing Habits: 9 No-Burnout Practices During a Recession

Self-Care Habits for Writers: What Are You Doing During COVID? – Make a Living Writing

Online Writing: Productivity Habits to Speed Up the Process

Men with Pens

Men with Pens gives writing tips for continent writers and copywriters. Topics range from persuasive writing to client acquisition and more. 

Why You Shouldn’t Write Often | Men with Pens

The Worst Mistake a Writer Can Make

Why You Should Write Without Excuses | Men with Pens

Almost an Author

A collaborative blog of authors giving advice on their craft. 

A Powerful Resource for Moving Past Writer’s Block – Almost An Author

The Benefits of a Writing Ritual – Almost An Author

Why Your “Bad” Writing Holds the Key to Curing Writer’s Block – Almost An Author

Writer’s Write

A goldmine of information for business and blogging writers, Writers Write has over 1400 articles, reviews courses and workbooks to improve your writing skills. The free newsletter will motivate you to keep on writing. 

5 Bad Writing Habits You Can Break Today

8 Habits Any Journalist Or Blogger Must Avoid – Writers Write

7 Daily Habits That Help Writers Create 2 000+ Words A Day

Jane Friedman

Jane Friedman provides classes and articles of the book publising industry based on years of personal experience. 

How to Overcome Perfectionism to Achieve Your Writing Goals | Jane Friedman

Motivation Doesn’t Finish Books | Jane Friedman

Productive Writer 

John Soares is a full time writer who has declared that he wants us writers to “Work less earn more live more.” His passion is to help other writers get more done for more money while they still have a lot of life left over for themselves. 

THE TOP 27 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR WRITING WILLPOWER | Productive Writers

Helping Writers Become Authors

K.M Weiland is a historical and speculative fiction writer and author of the award-winning books Outlining Your Novel and Structuring Your Novel. 

Most Common Writing Mistakes – Helping Writers Become Authors

The Do’s and Don’ts of Storytelling According to Marvel – Helping Writers Become Authors

How to Write Character Arcs – Helping Writers Become Authors

Live Write Thrive

C.S. Laken has written as a novelist and copyeditor while coaching others on writing, being a mom and avid backpacker. Her greatest love is to keep busy while teaching, writing and helping other writers. 

6 Bad Habits You Can Write Without

Ways to Break Those Habits That Keep You From Writing

The Ancient Science That Can Help You Get It Written | Live Write Thrive

 Seth Godin

Seth Godin is a marketing genius. He is famous for his daily writing practice and has a decades old blog to prove it.  

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Beginner Mind Surrenders Expertise Becomes Mastery


Beginner mind surrenders expertise. How could I have missed that insight in martial arts films since I was a Kung Fu junkie as a kid? All too often we forget that even masters in other arts will join a new art. If they are true masters they will approach it as a beginner. If not they fall back, like every one else, on what they know. Of course when they catch this, they cut that out. Then watch them go.

Mastery

The mastery lesson is the point of every martial arts flick. It was there all the time. The master is portrayed as a bumbling or weak man. He makes a lot of errors and then out of nowhere we see him perform a series of skills at a high level with complete control.

Where did the skill come from?

It was the hidden iceberg that has been developing in the water the entire time. We only see that peak after so much work has already gone into making the ice.
 
I found myself thinking about this when I was working through today’s Nurturing Your Writing Calm practice. The thought was so powerful that I had to make a note for later to go further into this.
 
George Leonard spoke of this mindset when he talked of two kinds of masters in ‘Mastery’. Years ago Lenard had given an eight week certification program to two experienced black belts in other styles.

Each master had a different approach to learning. 

The first master Lenard gave us was Russell. In Leonard’s words Russell “From the moment Russell stepped on the training mat, he revealed that he was a trained martial artist.” He was full of his old karate practice habits, so learning his new art of Aikido was impeded because he did not let himself make mistakes. In short Lenard had a problem with his beginner mind surrendering his expertise.

Mistakes become mastery 

Mistakes are the process we must all go through with the new. We only learn when we make mistakes. A good habit is only limited to a specific set of circumstances. When we move into a new situation, we have to let go of our trusted habits to get to a new level of understanding based on that new set of parameters. The old situations will not apply till we fully understand the new. That starts with the same baby steps we took to gain the first set of habits in the first place.

Expertise steps off the path

Russell’s problem was, “…finding it hard to let go of his expertise, and because of this failing to get the most out of his aikido training.” It was only after he had fallen behind the students without prior training that he surrendered his experience and competence so that he could move along the mastery path.

Tony’s Beginner Mind Surrenders Expertise

Tony’s approach did not indicate any previous experience as a fourth degree karate black belt and owner of two karate schools. His interactions were respectful to the teachers and sincerely humble while remaining aware of everything about him. The only clues to his back ground lay in just his presence and the way he sat, stood and walked. He had no karate warm-ups for class and made no effort to step away from a beginner’s mind. He allowed himself to make the obvious mistakes to learn from them from the perspective of aikido instead of karate. That is to say he let the art teach him how to interact from it’s perspective instead of his own. He surrendered his previous habits for a new and better perspective to improve himself.
 
The Only time Tony allowed himself to display his full competence was when he was asked to show the class one of his forms. The demonstration took the breath away for a moment for most of the students and teachers present. His grace, power and skill was faster than a human eye could take in fully as he launched multiple attacks with incredible Kia. At the end he bowed and just humbly returned to his seat at the edge of the mat, again the same beginner focused student he had been before.

Mastery as the way

The way of the master of any art from karate to writing to marriage is, “…to cultivate the mind and heart of the beginning at every stage along the way. For the master, surrender means there are no experts. There are only learners.”

Writers have to take this to heart.

Constant learning is how writers work. Every new assignment. Each new book. Any work we begin is a new territory with its own rules that we must learn and craft our habits to meet their requirements.
 
Sure we do take our old tried and true habits with us, and for much of it we do profit. Though, we must still remain aware of the environment and the shifts we find. That is where a beginner’s approach that allows us to ignore the time tested rules we follow to fall to the way side for a brief time so that we can achieve our ends at a new level.

Professional mind learns for mastery

None other than Steven Pressfield is on record for this in his book ‘The Authentic Swing — Notes From the Writing of a First Novel’. For anyone looking for a writer’s perspective on the beginner’s mind for a writer in a new field, this is it.
 
Pressfield points out that just jumping in and swimming for the far shore is more of an “armature way” of writing a book than the planned process he learned as a madman and screenwriter. In those disciplines he learned to plan out the elements of the work and ask the right questions to cover the big structure bases. “What’s the theme? What is this story about?” He also looked for the elements. “Who’s the protagonist and what element of the theme does he represent? Who’s the villain? How do they clash? What are the crisis, climax and conclusion? The biggest one too…where do you focus the camera (perspective)?
 
For his first novel though, he let his instincts guide him.
A writer needs to listen to his instincts, Which often shows up when we need to learn something. Pressfield abandoned well honed and proven habits for his first published novel The Legend of Bagger Vance”. “I am not going to work that way on this book. I don’t know why. I am going to wing it. I am going to start on Page One and let her rip.” That is what a writer’s beginner’s mind looks like.

Every writer has his own take on mastery. Here is What I learned most from Isaac Asimov and Michael Crichton on getting words done.

Mastery is when the beginner mind surrenders expertise

No matter how much experience a writer may gain, every time we approach something new we are better off if we follow Pressfield to let the material dictate which habits stay and what new ones we need to learn. Remember that to learn the new your beginner’s mind needs to surrender the expertise you have built to grow.


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Writing Restart Practice after a Long Hiatus

How to restart your writing practice when you have neglected it for moths or even decades.

Restarting a writing practice is always a practice of remembering that you did not quit just yesterday. You have spent some time and lost some ground. Like the athlete or martial artist returning to a gym , swimming pool, or training floor under the same circumstances, you are going to have to remember to slow down, adjust, and ease back into your practice. Everyone is different and there are lots of things to try. Use what works for you and forget the rest entirely, or add them in as you go. It’s up to you. You are the one trying to relearn how to juggle a dozen things.

Read a book to restart your writing practice

To write you need to fuel the process with what you have read. Reading is the basis point for a writer. It is also likely a key player in the murder of your process the last time. Skipping your reading is like passing up gas stations on the highway. The production loss is subtle warning light that is often ignored. If you are not careful, you are going to find yourself out of gas. When your out of words read gas, you are out of things to type. Your practice is suddenly dead right before your eyes. So start there. Read something. Anything will work, as long as you might write about it. Here’s a great starter list for most writers to fill their tanks on. So how do you do that?

Glad you asked. That means your writing practice restart starts with a reading practice habit restart first. I suggest you find a time, like say half an hour or so to start, you that works for you like the evenings before bed. Just make sure you do not put it in where you will be writing later.

A Witting Practice Restart Needs Fuel

Reading fuels the life of legendary writers. Steven King is well know for his production work. The man cracks out a book in just three months. How does he do this? He reads. Not just a little either. King laments the the fact that he has so little time that he can only read about 80 books a year, one and a half a week. That is a one two habit combo that has rocked the book world since Carrie was published in 1974.

Most of the rest of us can only stand on the side to applaud and gawk. Our lives are filled with movies, projects, hobbies, family, friends and the list goes on. Leave us not mention the need to work outside of writing to keep the lights on, eat and other little life details like that. Our writing practice restart just hangs there like those unused dance shoes we bought for learning the tango.

Steven King Keeps His Writing Fuel in Hand

The key is to remember that to be a writer is to be disciplined. You have to work to make writing work. When your inner critic starts up about this, remind him that Steven King once said, ‘If you don’t have time to read, you don’t have the time (or the tools) to write. Simple as that.’ So read. Develop the habit and stop whining.

King also passes along a tip to adjust to reading more. ” Reading is the creative center of a writer’s life. I take a book with me everywhere I go, and find there are all sorts of opportunities to dip in. The trick is to teach yourself to read in small sips as well as in long swallows.”

Realx as You Develop Give your Writing Practice Restart Time to Grow

Don’t over think your process. It’s real easy to compare yourself to other more advanced writers, such as indie arthor Helen Scheuerer, or worse the glory of your own past. The fact is Helen Scheurer took years to get where she is and started where you are. You need to as we used to say in the Marines when out on a hump, just put your head down and march. As for your past, well by now it is likely that that glorious view you have has had a big dab of Vaseline on the lens for a long time. You can not live the present in the past anyway, so don’t. Sit down and type. Forget trying to measure up. Just enjoy where you are now. You will not be there forever, so try to enjoy the view you have now.

Another issue that pops up is guilt. Guilt is natural and normal. It’s the conscience’s way of telling us we have missed a step, such as hurt someone. In this case though it might be hitting us for not getting our work done or all the wasted time we have lost.

Fortunately we can deal with guilt most effectively by dealing with it directly instead of putting things off. The strategy is simple. Make amends and start changing your habits.

For example you can compensate for your wasted time binge watching Netflix over the weekend by breaking down the project times you would have normally used to smaller chunks over the coming week to make amends to your writing restart practice.

Revisit Your Past Writing

You, more specifically your past work, is an excellent place to warm back into writing. Look at what you have done a bit to see where you have been and what you have still unfinished. This is a great way to gain some perspective on where you are now and gain some momentum. It also does a great job killing those memories of how great you were way back when. Less glory seeking from the past. More work now. As Steven Pressfield is famous for saying, “Do the work.”

Restarting your writing process is also a haven for writer’s block. So a trip into the past can give you some ideas you might be able to use now. Many a writer has looked back through their stacks to find an unfinished manuscript then stuck it back into the forge to find they have a fine story at the end.

The main reason your old works failed and they are a gem now is simple. You have changed since them. You have perspective, experience, and sharper eyes for story and plot lines (even if you have not kept up with your writing skills) from all the stories and writing you have been exposed to in the time you first penned that book. Remember reading is the fuel for writing. That fuel has been looking for a book or article to go into. You have a lot of it on hand. Use that to to restart your writing practice.

Getting Your Writing Practice Restarted

Once you have some momentum from a good foundation, the rest is just time and keeping on the path to mastery. That is all for now.

Tomorrow, we will do Part 2 of Writing Restart Practice after a Long Hiatus.

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Writers Finish and Ship How to Know Part 1

All writers finish and ship. You got this. Everything is ready. Now it is time to ship. Are you certain? When did you Finnish the writing? When is that? Tricky questions for all creatives from the artistic side’s writers, artists and performers to the pragmatic side’s architects, engineers and business builders.

Being finished can be easy or hard, it depends on the variables. For our talk here I will stick to writing, but the base concepts are universal for all creative types.

Theory says that a writer is done when they can ship. Practice often stalls shipping. Shipping has several options and depends a great deal on the writer. When we ship happens a lot for writers in the process and can be when we send the work to an editor, publish the article on line or deliver that white paper to a client. Writers ship at several stages, some are harder to get past and are toally different for most writers.

For the most part to ship is the point where we can no longer make changes to our draft. We go live. For many writers this is where we get cold feet. We feel that inner critic just hammering away at us. It is not always easy to know the answer to the question in the back of 0ur head. When is this work ever really going to be done?

Do I have to finish to ship?

A lot of people make the mistake of bouncing between the belief that their stuff is crap and over editing or thinking that every line they put down on paper is golden and waste time trying to make the work work. Neither is hardly the case. They are both stalls to ship.

Every writer needs to know when to let go. Our job is to filter through our raw material to find the pure ideas we are aiming at. Sometimes that means we have to know to let go of the clinkers.

What’s a clinker?

When we used coal fired stoves people often found one or two pieces that did not burn in every load. The nonburnable pieces were called clinkers. They were often the result of either low quality fuel or not burning the fuel right. The common answer back then was mostly just to shovel them out and start over with a fresh load.

Writing works much the same way. When we form clinkers we have to know to shovel things out and start over. We have to know when to let go.

Did you go all Picasso or George Lucas or Sir Author Conan Doyle?

If it were easy to know when a creative work is done masters like Picasso, Lukas and Doyle would have had a far easier time of it. Knowing when we are done is as much a sense from our guts as it is a plan spelled out in great detail on paper.
Picasso was showing his newest collection to his friend and Paris art dealer Daniel-Henry Kahnweiler when his voice fell silent. In that moment Picasso could see his work had not really reached his vision. Picasso knew his work was not done. He seized a palette knife and shredded each one in turn.

All the time Picasso destroyed months of work his friend kept trying to stay his hand. “Arrête Pablo. Arrête.” Nothing could stop him. In that moment Picasso took himself back to square one. Sometimes you have to know the work is not ready.

Our early success can prevent finishing and shipping also

George Lucas found his work incomplete for decades. Fans raved about this along with him, but it was a case of misunderstanding of what the work scale was. Fans loved the story and demanded the remaining unfilmed six films he had used to craft his back story, story line and characters.

There is little doubt that Lucas could have finished all the films sooner if he had not piddled around fine tuning the original three through several incarnations. The question real question was should he tell the story for the audience or for himself?

Lucas’ vision only wanted to tell the story of the first three films, chapter four to chapter six. Lucas focused on perfecting the vision for the first films instead of finishing the rest of the films and shipping them to his audience. He spent years remaking the films after they had been in the theaters for various versions as the technology allowed him to expand our view of his original vision.

Lucas’s Answer

As Lucas said in an interview on his 2004 updated version of the first film from 1977,

“The special edition, that’s the one I wanted out there. The other movie, it’s on VHS, if anybody wants it. … I’m not going to spend the, we’re talking millions of dollars here, the money and the time to refurbish that, because to me, it doesn’t really exist anymore. It’s like this is the movie I wanted it to be, and I’m sorry you saw half a completed film and fell in love with it. But I want it to be the way I want it to be.

I’m the one who has to take responsibility for it. I’m the one who has to have everybody throw rocks at me all the time, so at least if they’re going to throw rocks at me, they’re going to throw rocks at me for something I love rather than something I think is not very good, or at least something I think is not finished.”

Fans and Lucas aside, the industry is far better off tech wise because of all that time Lucas spent to advance the tech he needed tell his story. The main thing is that in the end it is the writer who says the works done. Though eventually Lucas did bow to the public desires. He made the first of the remaining six films and he set the stage for the reast of the films to be made from his notes and guidelines.

Doyle Changed his Mind

Sir Author Conan Doyle was not consumed by perfecting a vision of his work. He was tired of writing about Sherlock Holmes, so he killed Holmes to get free of the story. The ire of the public over the untimely end of the story, including bricks through his publisher’s window, forced Doyle to bring Holmes back. It was much later that he could quietly quit the tale.

For Doyle the return of Sherlock Holmes ensured immortality for the Holms story, but very few of us today know of his Lost World that has been used for many Jurassic type worlds since including works like Jurassic Park.

So who knows when best to end the story the author or the audience?

Many would like to see ourselves as Picasso with the steel nerves to raze our work to the ground. I am certain some do have Picasso’s direction, but most of us either fritter our time with clinkers or just yield to demands of the audience to decide when we are done. In the end it is the writer who must decide to let go or press on. We have to listen to Picasso and Lucas. Writers are done when we say. We say when to finish and ship.

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Support Your Focus Part 3

Support sour focus is a strange kind of thinking but it’s a true need. Let’s dip into this concept. You need to have a support system for your focus outside of the writing. Your work is not just the result of your writing time. It is everything you do in your day. You bring all of it to the table when you sit down to write. If you want your A game when you sit down, you have to have an A game support system the rest of the day so that it can replenish your focus resources and build new reserves.

Be Active

One of the keys to keep your focus strong is getting the blood out of our feet and into our heads. We also need to build our capacity for work, aka our physical fitness. We need fitness for focus. For the writer this is available at two times during our day. One is found while writing and the second is found in the rest of the day.

The power break

Taking breaks at regular intervals while you are working maximizes our reserves, allowing us to maintain peak productivity. When we are writing these breaks can be as short as five minutes and as long as half an hour at the end of our twenty five or fifty minute work periods. Yes, the Pomodoro system is based on this concept. For the writer these breaks allow us to clear our minds and let the subconscious do its thing with the work while it allows the body to sustain longer work times.

Using your break times for surfing on line or similar online distractions do not yield much gain. These power breaks work best when we get some body movement in.

You do not have to put in a Tobata or some other short type of workout, though you could do that for a break during a longer series should you want to blend in a more vigorous approach. You do not have to be this aggressive though.

Most people will be happy to know we get excellent results just standing up and walking around at your normal walking pace so that you can circulate the blood. So get up walk, walk some stairs, go to the toilet, get out of the building for a minute or two and breathe deep, look out a window if you cannot go out, stretch a bit and again breathe deep. Movement refreshes the body and the mind while prepping you for the next round.

My take on supporting your focus

I have used these kinds of breaks for years. Even an hour of writing in the evening runs better when broken up by a five or ten minute moving break. When you remember that being too sedentary is a big problem these days, these simple breaks can be part of your cure along with better focus and higher quality production. Total win win.

They are not limited to your writing time either. The same technique can be spread throughout your day with either 25 minute or 50 minute work periods to maximize your energy and focus for the day.

The rest of your day

Aside from breaking up your day there are other things you can do regularly to support and improve your focus.

Fitness

Being fit has been proven to improve both focus and energy. You don’t have to be a marathon runner either to achieve the laser like focus that runners do. Though if you do happen to be an endurance athlete or aspire to be one there are plenty of writers like Haruki Murakami or Joyce Carol Oats, among others, to draw inspiration from. You can read a better line of thought from Oats in To Invigorate Literary Mind, Start Moving Literary Feet or Nick Ripatrazone’s Why Writers Run

You can skip the hard core, just going for a walk, swimming or adding other low impact workouts still reduce stress, improve health, and strengthens your focus for writing. Plus some exercise and fresh air does wonders for excellent sleep, which is so essential for all kinds of mental skills from hatching your plots, avoiding deus ex machina and of course focus.

Plan as you go

Keeping a note book or pad on hand to take notes when ideas come through out your day is a great way to improve your focus while writing. When we know what we are going to write about focus becomes more natural.

To support your focus practice focus

Focus is like any other skill. We get better when we do it more. Learning to stay focused does not happen overnight. You need to learn it and then practice.

Another common problem can be trouble keeping a schedule. You are fine. Experiment to find what works for you.

If you fail to write for weeks or years, how do you avoid discouragement long enough to start? Like Nike. Just Do It. Make yourself sit and write, even just ten minutes. You could use micro habits to build the practice and as a fall back for those days you are tempted to skip. Find the smallest part of your task you can do. Make it so small that you can not come up with a reason not to do it. Then place that micro habit at a point in your day where you cannot avoid it. The classic example of this is building the habit of daily flossing by starting with just one tooth every day for the first five days. Five days gives you the habit. Building off of it happens rapidly.

Writing is no different. Put down the equivalent of flossing just one tooth, like say write just five words and quit. No more no less for the first five days. Then let yourself build your habit from there. It also helps if the work is something you care about since our emotions do give us energy to do things we care about. You can use anything that works.

Make your schedule a habit

Having a schedule for our days builds a mental pattern for us to lock into so we can tap into our natural flow. It allows us to write when our focus is at its peak and custom build your schedule to meet your needs. Write when you want to. That can be before breakfast, a couple hours in the afternoon or an hour before bed. Even just seven hours on weekends. When does not matter. The only thing that matters is consistency and regularity over time.

When you first start, develop the habit to write first. The reason is till your writing is more of a habit, and even after to some degree, writing can take more time than you will expect from interruptions, illness and unforeseen technical problems. You will avoid much frustration if you work your projects without a schedule till you have enough experience to know how long a given amount of work will take.

So skip setting a dead line for finishing a novel by January 1 or writing a blog post every Monday. Avoid the overwhelm, the need to pull an all nighter or even just giving up on the project. Skip writing deadlines, along with deadlines for all the other writing tasks from research to edits on through to rereading, in favor of using chunks of time at regular intervals. You will give yourself a better chance for success.

Getting back to work

Schedules are often made just to fail. Life happens. Things need to get done.

It is not uncommon for issues from kids to selling the house come between you and your schedule. You are going to lose writing time at times.

What can you do?

Go with the flow and then get back into the schedule as soon as you get past dealing with life’s curve ball. Consider adapting your schedule that you loved to the new situation. Completely revise it if you need to. You can also use what I call habit keepers to ride things through, or bare bone minimums that you cannot skip. For instance you can peel back your writing to just five minutes instead of an hour but keep your normal start time.

The thing to remember is that your feelings and thoughts can fool you into thinking your work is not all that important. You wind up procrastinating. The longer you do that the harder it gets to jump back into the game. Don’t wait too long. Jump into the ice filled water.

Feelings and thoughts

One of the bigger false realities comes from what you feel or think. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, feel fear or dread or worry, or have that critic in your head going off on how your writing is not any good and that you can’t complete it. We can easily feel tired or think we are too distracted to write right now.

The reality is you are not your thoughts or your feelings. Thoughts are, as the monks say monkies chattering in your mind. They are nothing more than the habitual thoughts you have picked up from others. Your feelings are the emotional responses to your thoughts and conditioned responses. Become aware of them both, but let them pass through your head without attention. Don’t let them stop you from getting to your work. Make the choice to write, then act on it.

One practice is to free write for a chunk of time, say twenty minutes. As you fall into a groove the critic and feelings will fade away. It may take time but it will happen.

You can’t do it all

The fact is we all have things we like to do besides writing. We have desires to hit the beach, go skiing, hang with friends, almost anything that is fun and easy. Social media is a huge addictive distraction for many.

The only choice we have is to make cuts and simplify our lives in other areas so we can work on our writing. Ask yourself the hard questions “Are you going to write or not?” “Is your novel going to be ship ed?” Be choosy. Find what you really can live without then move some writing into that slot. Be sure to keep some healthy activities like eating right, staying active and spending time with family and friends.

The key for better focus really comes down to commitment and work. Make the commitment and do the work. Supporting your focus will give you gains. It is also very useful when you are in the belly of the beast.

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Keep Writing – Work in the Belly of the Beast

Arguably the longest and most painful part of writing is the middle where all the fears and phobias emerge to resist our best efforts to put words on the page. These are the dark days deep inside the belly of the beast when we no longer see ourselves, much less our work, in a positive light.



To keep writing in the middle of the longest and most painful part of writing is the quit point for many. It is in the Belly of the Beast where all the fears and phobias emerge to resist our best efforts to put words on the page. These are the dark days deep inside the fire beast when we no longer see ourselves, much less our work, in a positive light. We tend to doubt every word we pull through the membrane. This is the time we cannot call ourselves a writer. We feel like fools and charlatans.

This lost time not only happens to the novelist, it also happens to the humble blogger and copywriter as well. In fact it happens to anyone who writes at all. We berate ourselves while we wait for some omniscient force outside ourselves to proclaim our work and us valid.

Writer Error

Ultimately though, we have made an mistake that , as Marcy McCay at The Write Practice put it, is “…both unnecessary and abusive.”

The start was hard, but now the gale sets in. Everything could have been all roses or hell for the first part. Now none of that matters. Now you are past the gates of hell. Out of now where you have been hit and there is really nothing but a shambles, or at least you think that is what you see all about you.

What it does…this fear?

The cause of the mayhem may have been anything. It could have been illness, lost the beat of your working rhythm, or even that someone dared like what you wrote. None of that matters. You have lost the momentum. You are dead in the water and the work has gone into the drawer along with several other unfinished works.

Answer: Keep Writing.

Everyone gets this. It’s expected. You are not cursed, untalented, lazy or a loser. No one creates flawless prose. Even Asimov, as close to a once copy writer as you will find still had to let his brain work through his work a bit to get his work right when he typed it out.

So what can I do? You ask.

How about some tips? Sure. Keep writing. That’s the most important one. Here are more seven ways to slog through the beast instead of giving up.

Start with some grit.

Research by Angela Duckworth, University of Pennsylvania indicates the most important factor including intelligence and talent to achieve a goal is grit. It is our resilience in times of failure and adversity coupled with our consistent pursuit over time that seems to make the key difference.

“’Grit’ as Duckworth defines it, is having passion and perseverance, sticking to long term goals and having the emotional stamina to keep going, when others have given up. Grit is living life like a marathon, not a sprint. ” from Why You Should Live Life as a Marathon not a Sprint

Duckworth’s research shows that most people tend to quit at the first sign of frustration or confusion. It is not uncommon for many people to stop working to improve after they have achieved a certain level of proficiency.

Grit is Everywhere

We all have grit, our problem is we often forget that we have it. It takes grit to achieve any long term project from a high school or college diploma to rank in a martial art to becoming an instructor of any kind. Every human effort of any worth requires we access some grit. The trick to remember is that you already have it.

We need not look too far to find grit in others either. The sheer number of people who needed grit is found everywhere from Nelson Mandela who said, “Do not judge me by my success, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.” to JK Rowling who was rejected by a dozen publishers before Scholastic Press accepted Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone then took seven-teen years to finnish the entire series itself. The record is pretty clear. No one gets a free ride to success. You are going to fall down, likely a lot. The only free ride is the one to achieve nothing. The writing world is no different than any other either. Here is a list of 50 famous authors and their track records.

What is Grit?

Grit itself is a form of self-control by delayed gratification and distraction management. Grit is the work you do when you keep writing.

Marshmallow Study

The long documented marshmallow study that gave kids a chance for two marshmallows instead of one by waiting has long been held as an example of how people could control themselves. The long terms of the study have been shown that the kids who could defer gratification in the test tended to do better in other key areas like grades, popularity, income, lower BMIs down the road, and less drug abuse.

Resillence

Writers have to write consistently to improve their skills and create the library of work that will ensure their eventual success. A writer must be able to resist temptations or distractions that pull them from the pages and allow them to bounce back when they do fall.

Keep Writing

To that end here are some suggestions to keeping going when you feel you want to quit. You can also add in a little Unlimited Willpower to the mix. Now write. Finish that project.

Know what motivates you.

Knowing why you want to finish is about the only way to have a clear sense of purpose from the start. Our whys are the keys that inspire us to get up and get things done. We do not act on what we want to do, but why we want to do it. Simon Sinek has a great talk on this. Start with why — how great leaders inspire action

Often we get caught in the how of our projects because we lose sight of the why. Why would anyone spend time every day just scribbling? There are a lot more fun and interesting things to do than opening up a vein and letting your inner thoughts flow out into the keyboard.

Take some time and ask yourself why. That why is what will pull you through not only the dark night that is the middle of your project, but every other point in the project as well.

Practice mindfulness.

Being aware and accepting in the moment is one of those key skills that helps us not only to focus on the project but also releases a lot of negative issues like stress. It also allows you to avoid those emotions that knock you off track. Most key here is the fact that mindfulness practices inhibit impulses so we procrastinate less. Here are some ways to integrate some mindfulness into your work and a mindful writing practice.

Manage the self-talk

The inner critic is sneaky. Your critic hates it when you keep writing. Becoming aware of what you are actually telling yourself about your work and yourself is one of those devilish details that is heard in every writer’s head. The winning game plan is to have some self-compassion for yourself and work the problem.

Most people are very hard on themselves in the hope that they will do better. The reality though is that it is not very useful because people fail to see the difference between useful criticism and harsh judgment. They default to harsh self judgment. Being judgmental when you slip up makes it harder to stay on track.

Being compassionate for your failures allows you suspend harsh personal criticism in favor of seeing your errors as problems to solve.

“Because the prolific person is focused on problem-solving rather than remorse and self-recrimination, she will typically either a) recover quickly from obstacles and triggers, or b) not even perceive them in the first place.” Hillary Rettig, The 7 secrets of the Highly Prolific

Shift your focus to keep writing

Too many people tend to spend most of their time focuse focus on past or future at the wrong time to work in the present. There is only one place to keep our minds while we are working. That is right here and right now. You will flub up if you are busy in the past looking at some failure or off in the future with some win that is not even moving forward. As Steven Pressfield is fond of saying “Do the work.”

When we put our focus on the work we need to do today, things get done. It is that simple. Looking at the past is great when planning. A view to the goal is great for inspiration and lining up the day’s work with your goal. Use those viewpoints that way. But the work is totally the only thing you should think about when you are at work today.

Learn how to regulate your emotions

Our emotions can trip us up. A bad mood about the work or in general can bring on procrastination in a rush. Getting a handle on our emotions is another area to develope a professional mindset that keeps us at our pages regardless of our mood. The fact is the writer who gets his pages in every day is much like the swimmer who gets her laps in every day. Both will always feel better for the session than having not skipped it.

A couple of tricks to keep writing

Celebrate the small wins, especially those days the emotions started out bad. Beating your off days by doing the work is a win. Celebrate that win.

Write on your feelings first. This can help you process the negatives and warm up for the writing work in one shot.

Reframe your fear as excitement. Alison Wood Brook, performance anxiety researcher, explains it as:

“When people feel anxious and try to calm down, they are thinking about all the things that could go badly. When they are excited, they are thinking about how things could go well.”

Shift into a growth mindset to keep writing

If you work from the perspective of getting things right, psychologists say that you are likely going to see mistakes as failures and a poor reflection of your skills. You are also likely to avoid getting feedback on your work or try to do everything yourself.

Shifting your mindset from perfectionism to a learning growth based reference with the goal to get better focuses us on getting feedback and taking challenges that improve us. It also allows us to reframe rejection and failures as learning experiences so that we can bounce back faster to move on to the next step.

My take

Getting through the grind of your beast is going to take a lot out of you. It is going to force you to grow and will force you to meet and take out your personal fears. That is the key point. The only thing holding you back is fear itself. Don’t let it. Write. Then keep writing.

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Unlimited Willpower the Alternative Theory

Willpower Theory

The theory of unlimited willpower has brought a new look to what we understand of willpower. For over three decades psychology has labored under the theory that our will power is limited. That is how it has seemed to work under the long standing theory. Your ego starts each day with a full tank of fuel. All day long we run about making one choice after another. Each choice uses up a little more of the fuel, commonly referred to as ego depletion. Our goal is to maximize our reserves for more important choices, so we use strategies like planed breaks and simplifying our decision making process to ensure we get the maximum value from the day’s reserves. Over time we can also build more tank space so we can get further too.

Under this theory, a day of heavy decisions makes writing that book or running that blog a seriously challenging choice when faced with the ease of pizza and a movie.

New Theory Unlimited Willpower

A study at Beijing Normal University, China has challenged that line of thought. The researchers found that we might have an infinite amount of willpower. The first step is to find out why we feel depleted after a lot of choices. That answer could give us a better understanding of how to access that infinite source.

Definition of Ego Depletion is Over Simplistic

What the study results tells us is that ego depletion theory needs a tweak. The researchers found that the weakened ego effect was not as strong as has been believed when they tried to replicate the original results with participants in four studies using a standard depletion procedure. In the test the participants completed a random depletion procedure then repeat the task a second time. No evidence of significant depletion effects were found in any of the studies. The null results indicate that depletion may have a much weaker effect than previous studies led us to believe.

Previous Studies

Previous studies have been centered on the participants’ self-control. The first part was to deplete the ego then measure the loss in the second round.

New Research Shows Unlimited Willpower

The newer research argues that the first task is the reason we shift from a need to control ourselves to a need to gratify a want. This is a change of our motivational mindset.

The new process model supports ego depletion but argues there is more going on that just the hypothesis of “Doing A takes all the energy you need to do B.” That explanation is too simplified. The possibility is that the ego has a larger stamina than previous research suggests. If that theory holds, then we come to the questions of how does will power work and what can we really control?

Retrain What We See

The thinking is that if willpower really works like a muscle, then the type of work nor our feelings, enjoy or hate it, does not matter. You should not be more tired from a grueling four hour gym workout than dancing all night long.

Cut Choice

Many people using the muscle based depletion argument have cut down their choices so that they can conserve their will power. Theoretically, the fewer choices they make daily creates less of a drain on our willpower reserves. Many people from Steve Jobs in his black turtlenecks to Mark Zuckerberg are famous for their limited wardrobes. Here’s a good argument in that line of thought. “An Argument For Wearing The Same Clothes Every Day”.

Minimizing your choices is a great argument and does seem to work, but some research says that even if you feel depleted after you finish a given task, your self-control will stay high if you re-frame the work as being fun.

Unlimited Willpower Turns Work to Fun

In 2011 Juliano Laran and Chris Janiszewski (Work or Fun? How Task Construal and Completion Influence Regulatory Behavior ) tested the minimalism theory. They gave participants the tedious task of choosing between similar products like two similar computers with just a few differences, like RAM or CPU speed. The real difference was how they framed the choice as fun or not. Those in the fun group had one additional sentence in the instructions: “The first study is a fun study involving hypothetical choices in several product categories.” This extra sentence made a difference that allowed the participants to persist longer than the second group in evaluating the products. Restoring Ego Depletion

Break Point

One’s attitude is the break point for whether you feel “depleted” or not. A belief that your willpower is unlimited seems to become a self-fulfilling prophesy based on the scientific evidence.

Willpower is an Emotion

I think it is worth the work to develop an unlimited willpower mindset. It starts with how you see your willpower. People who see their willpower as an emotion also find it easier to believe that they have unlimited willpower. They might be on the right track too since there is science based evidence to support their beliefs.

Belief and Science

Researchers have looked at how our beliefs affect our willpower. Those studies show that people who believe they have unlimited will power do seem to outperform their limited willpower believing counterparts.

Sugar Free

For the unlimited willpower believer a sugar rush is not even an option. In one study on Willpower Sugar and Self-control researchers tested the effects of sugar on self-control. Over three experiments people were given a sugary or a non-sugary drink when being tested. The limited willpower believers saw an improvement when given a sugary drink versus a non-sugary drink. The unlimited believers maintained a high level of self-control regardless of the drink they had.

Bounce Back Effect

A study out of the University of Zurich Katharina Bernecker shows that unlimited believers bounce back after a hard day with higher productivity goals, but their counterparts are still exhausted from the previous day’s work and are generally unproductive. The study also shows that the believers also follow up on those goals which results in making them far more effective than the limited theory-believers.

Sustained Learning

The believers continue to learn and improve in sustained work beyond where the limited theorists feel “depleted”. A Stanford study took participants through eight biased questionnaires to place them in one of the two belief sets. After modeling their beliefs the researchers gave each group a series of eight books to study over a period of time. For the first half of the test they results were similar, but the limited group lagged in the second half while the unlimited group continued to learn at the previous rate. The study showed that beliefs about willpower can be modified by input over the short term. What theory we believe can increase performance over a long and difficult task.

Unlimited Willpower Sees the Belief Change

Much of the reason for the difference is that when you believe you have unlimited resources your reactions and plan of attack changes. Procrastination is less and preparations are more efficient. With unlimited willpower the subject is apt to see problem solving as more as a motivational challenge/experience, not an exhausting one. Better preparation likely aids how smooth a project moves which also makes it easier to maintain positive momentum.

What Does Unlimited Willpower Mean for Writers?

Writers can take a few lessons from this. It’s clear that an unlimited willpower mindset can improve our productivity and that we can make that happen by reimagining our willpower as an emotion.

When we see our willpower as an emotion, we are far less likely to treat it as though it will deplete over time with use. No one would expect to see an emotion such as love reduced with more people coming into our lives such as when child is born. The added child does not decrease the love we have for other family members. No one is going to spend time being unhappy to save happiness for an event later that night. The trouble is that at the end of the day we can still feel drained even with an unlimited supply of will power.

So what makes us feel drained?

Michael Inzlicht at the University of Toronto thinks that the loss of control happens when there is a conflict between goals. Your emotions settle the matter of which one wins. It’s not that you cannot resist the temptation, which is a short term goal, of desert. The breakdown is because your goal of a beach body this summer is less emotionally compelling than the desert platter.

Projects We Like

It is possible to have unlimited willpower by spending more time on projects we like or put more focus on the aspects of the work we like to keep our motivation high. We could even walk away from those goals that hold no emotional motivation for us and feel good about it. There is no reason to run five miles a day when you are not really up for it.

In the Marines I found this to be totally true. I used to hate running, but it was not till I got running regularly with my unit that I ever felt an emotional connection to running. Once I had that connection, doing training runs on my own became far easier to do.

Perfect World

If everything were perfect, we could just fill our lives with things we find motivating. That’s a hard thing in a world where even our ideal work comes with unpleasant work aspects. As writers we all tend to like to write, but we might have problems with editing or research. Research in How do people adhere to goals when willpower is low? The profits (and pitfalls) of strong habits indicates that our habits are our way out in those times that willpower and emotional fortitude are low. Habits lock us in when we lack that emotional tie.

Habits

Creating a new habit to deal with such onerous tasks to take advantage of a regular emotional upswing in our day is a useful way to use autopilot in an advantageous way.

Putting Unlimited Willpower to Work

Researchers know that prioritizing our goals over impulses is key to winning the battle with temptation. What we do in our free time builds our motivation for later. Here are a few suggestions.

One of the things that helps us increase our willpower is how fit our bodies are. Physical exercise has shown clearly to improve mental function and willpower. A long term consistent program is the key for optimal benefits. This is likely because the habit of doing the workout even when you are tired or when the weather is not nice allows you to become more comfortable with discomfort and inconvenience. A sporadic workout has been shown to have both positive and negative effects on willpower, depends on factors like workout intensity. In both cases though moving the body and working out is a great tool for developing willpower.

Meditation and other mindfulness activities improve our willpower. In How Mindfulness Enhances Self-Control and How Mindfulness And Productivity Go Hand In Hand we find that there is a positive link between regular mindfulness and meditation practices and improved willpower. When we learn to observe our thoughts and emotions without judging them it becomes easier to see temptation when it strikes. Seeing temptation in the moment allows us to use our willpower and self-control to control it.

Subtle Reminders

You can use a subtle physical reminder to symbolically remind you of your infinite power. This can range from a poster over your desk to a medallion you use to meditate on. Eric Miller’s team found using subtle cues for unlimited willpower can create an access point to the unlimited mindset.

Conversations

You can also watch who you talk to as you develop your own unlimited mindset. Much of the research shows that creating too varied and conflicting cues in our thinking can have a negative effect on our ability to keep our motivation high. Avoiding conversations about feeling drained while we are working to shift our mental perspective can make it faster and easier to redefine our willpower expectations.

Consider

What is your inspiration to work on large goals? What attitude do you approach your day with? How do these affect your productivity? What do you think helps to rethink willpower?

Try out a great read Honesty- What does that have to do with writing?

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Focus…First Ask What’s My Target


Focus is one of life’s mental mastery lessons that are all around us. It’s amazing how often the lessons from one thing spills over into everything else. I have seen the lessons repeated in karate, sword, archery, driving, and even the incredible passion of some that is golf. Is it any wonder that adherents of these skills and arts cannot help but draw life lessons from them that apply to so many other totally different fields and skills?

Same lesson from so many fields?

I have my own theory. We are all drawn to different interests by our choices or circumstances we have wandered into. The reason we wind up learning the same lesson is that we all possess a universal tool. Our minds and how it works is always the same. This is the reason so many masters have long held little difference between skills. Many masters do not see a change of skill as a change of mind. A Zen proverb says

“Shooting with an arrow and dancing, decorating with flowers and singing, drinking tea and fighting – it is all the same.”

The masters around the world have been on to something for a long time. We do not really master a given skill, rather we work deep into a skill to master ourselves. We do that by controlling the fears that plague our mind and prevents us from entering in to a natural flow. It is about how we approach our mental game. That mental game is focus.

What’s my target?

I was following along with another Chet Scott article today. He advised to begin each task by asking yourself “What’s my target?” to shift your mental game into gear. His article directed me to the classic on getting the golf mindset Fearless Golf: Conquering the Mental Game – Dr. Gio Valiante.

I am always interested in any book that gives me a new perspective on how the mind works. Dr. Valinate a genius of the golf head game. Fortunately for everyone, the head game for writing is very much the same one that hunts down those who play golf.

So what is the head game for a golfer?

The golfer both average and pro fights the same critic when he adresses the ball that you and I face on the blank paper. That incessant voice that is filled with an infinite deluge of remarks and questions that drive us away from staying in the moment as we do our work, killing any chance of a natural flow. Killing our game. Destroying our focus.

Golf’s mind game…focus

Both minds are filled with fear based remarks, memories and questions. We are thinking about the wrong things. The solution master golfers use is to eliminate those questions in favor of a handful they continually repeat to draw them from their ego based mind to a mastery mindset.

Pro golfer Davis Love III changes his mindset from ego based concerns by focusing with the question “What is my target?”

Master questions

He is not alone. Mater golfers have just four questions they use throughout the game as a kind of rolling mantra to keep their mind focused on the work before them.

What is my target?
What is the best way to play this hole?
How do I want to hit this shot?
What sort of shot does this hole require?

These work well for golfers. Our mind responds visually to what we ask it and stays focused on hitting the target. That process eliminates the fear they face performing in front of a crowd.

The writer’s focus

The same thinking is going on in a writer’s head. The trouble for us is we don’t really know our target. After all the study and strategizing is done we finally create a plan. Then what happens? We BOMB. Bomb BIG.


What’s wrong? Where did we go wrong? We have our studies done and have a formed plan. The strategy is perfect. No step missed, yet…

We tripped up on the play itself because our lack of a focus was from our inner dialog’s failure to address the work before us. When we are not present, we are not in the flow. No flow means you no go… or rather you go, but not into the work.

Our mind was awash in various voices in our heads. You are back in the past with your planning and failures and successes or you are in the future with your hopes and dreams and idea endings. Our head is awash with questions on our mortality and that last critical review. We hear our teacher from years gone by announcing our D- in on the English exam with the words “See me after class.”

Clarity

Almost none of our thoughts are about our target. In fact if that voice is there, it’s weak and lost in the massive chorus of thoughts and ideas dancing about in our heads. We lack clarity. There is no focus.

It is hard to see things clearly when all you look at are the obstacles. Yes there is a time for that, but that was two steps back when we were planning. Now we must to use a Steven Pressfield concept, swing our swing. We must act without thinking about mechanics or other distractions to focus.

How do we get that vision?

We can start our work with a simple mantra “What’s my target?”

There is no endeavor in the entirety of humanity that does not at some point require complete focus of our minds. In fact our minds are totally built for this concept. We tend to only think of one thing at a time. We are good at it. Really good at working with just one thing, the problem is we are so good we can dance a million ideas through the CPUs of our minds at speeds that even the greatest quantum computer would have trouble rivaling.

The greatest advantage a quantum computer has over a human is that it lacks imagination. It can only work with the information it is given. It has automatic focus because it knows what the target is and is not distracted by unessential things. When the day comes that the computer has an imagination and with it an inner critic riding on its shoulder chattering away is the day that advantage will end.

Any kind of multi-tasking only makes the issue worse. Focus requires we not try to hit a handful of targets with just one arrow. It’s just not realistic. More often than not we will just aim in the general direction we think is right. Often this is a lesson in futility when we miss the actual target that will move us forward.

Game Plan

The game plan comes down to just one simple mantra. “What’s my target?” When you know what end result you want to hit, you will no longer be in a Hail Mary pass and pray kind of process. You will actually know where you want to hit. When you lose your arrow, you will know only know your target. It should even surprise you, much the same as the Kyudo archers when they sense the release of the perfect shot. You might even ask yourself, “Where did that come from?” That is how perfect your focus can become.

My focus target

Clarity and focus comes not from random work but the evaluation of aimed effort. We get that when we shift to the work away from the ego. “What’s my target?

Try this great article Mastery It’s Not What You Think

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Writing the 13 Gates Mountain Path



Writing often deals in metaphor. There is good reason for this. Metaphor paints a good picture in the readers’ minds and makes communication easier for the writer. We all learn well from the use of metaphor. It works all around. That is likely why we use it so much.

The writer’s path is itself a giant metaphor of the travel all writers take as we climb the mountain of ideas before us and the gates we must pass to gain all the skills.

13 Gates of writing

There are 13 major gates every writer uses as we climb the mountain of projects before us. Every time we sit down we bring the keys we gained from previous climps to increase our efficiency. The gate guards are clever though. They throw new obstacles in our way every time to ensure the journey requires as much effort as previous trips. Their aim is to stop the climb. We must adapt to the changes. Over time the keys become well grooved habits that allow us to make it through to the top and back.

The hardest part of the entire trip is always the same. We never really know where our keys will work easily or where new trials will bloom up. Nor is there an order these weaknesses will show themselves. There is no pattern. All we can do is be aware of ourselves and realize when we are under attack at one of the gates.

Writing is an easy thing to do, you think?

Not really. Writers are only human. We are not gods immortal and eternally wise. A writer can all too easily engage the good old triple-D habit to hide the realities facing them. It is one of the easiest self deceptions to allow ourselves to defend, deny and destroy to protect ourselves from learning a life lesson so that we can fashion the proper key we need.

What are the writing gates?

Courage

The first gate that comes to my mind is courage. Without courage a writer is often lost. It takes guts to write, edit and then give your work to the world. In writing we expose our inner most thoughts and our own skills. All of that is laid bare for critics to assail. No one is naturally immune to the piercing light of the public eye. It’s one of the great fears our inner critic will use to stop us in our tracks. We fear that society will judge us instead of our work and will be cast out.

When we kick in our courage we acknowledge our fears but instead of running we choose to accept them and act anyway. We become like a soldier on the battle line. He accepts his fear of death when choosing to see him-self as already dead. This allows the soldier to act uninhibited by his fears. It does not remove the fear. Such is the courage the writer assumes when choosing to move past a fear. He finds that the fears that held back his hand hold little sway in reality.

For writers we need not worry of some literary death. This is mainly because with each new work we are reincarnated anew. No critic can kill us as long as we complete our work and move to the next.

Self-honesty

The second is the writer’s honesty with ourselves and their writing. We can hardly be courageous if we are not honest enough to admit, if only to ourselves, about how we feel about a given work at a given time.

To write is to not just be honest with the material or the audience. It is to be honest with ourselves cross the board. We only improve when we can be honset about how well we are performing, what we need to improve as we work to make the corrections we need to make in ourselves, clairify our thoughts and create better works.

Honest often entails being more honest with ourselves about our performance when we could greatly profit from less work. Poblo Picaso is probably the most famous for honesty at this level mainly because of the manner he chose to display it.

Some years ago Picaso was showing his latest collection to his friend and art dealer in preparation for sale. The work was amazing to his friend. He was certain that Pablo had achieved a new level in his skill.

At some point Pablo stopped talking about the paintings then marched to his work table and seized one of his pallet knives. He strode to the first painting and sliced it to shreds.

His friend was shocked. A great work of art had been forever lost. That did not even slow Pablo. He marched through the rest of the paintings to rend every single one to the same level of destruction.

What had caused the carnage?

Pablo had realized during the showing that the works had failed to reach the level he knew he could achieve. His honesty with himself was such that he could not allow himself to profit from them, and he would have. Poblo held firm to higher standard fro himself. He would not allow himself to profit from such a shoddy effort on his part. He chose to only give to the world his best.

That is the kind of honesty a writer must have. When we think we are done we must ask ourselves did we put forth our best effort? Do we need to put in more practice? What do we need to learn? Then we must act accordingly.

Self-Confidence

Self-Confidence is another learned skill. It comes from doing our work naturally as we practice our craft. We become more aware of ourselves and learn from those lessons. We grow and our confidence grows along with it.

Humility

Humility seems to rise with all the great writers. A good writer knows that they are merely apprentices to their higher minds. Youngians would say that the us we experience, the ego, is nothing more than the smallest part of ourselves.

They are right. All creatives tune into a cosmic radio in our heads. Humility means more for us than just crediting a higher power for our work. Our humility allows us to see our work in a clearer light so that we can more easily find where improvement is needed. Humility allows us to rally our courage to fix and build up those areas. Humility is the reaosn we can improve our work and ourselves. Without humility we will stagnate leaving our work little more than a cesspool of less than stellar compositions. To build our humility is to strive to improve our work.

Find our humility

Humility growth requires little more than the lessons every mother strives to pass on to their child. Be gracious to those who aid or support you in your work. It takes little more than an honest thank you. Give your support and help to others. Remind them their work is valid. Avoid wearing your accolades on everyone else’s nose. Lift up others. Encourage them. Be grateful for those who believed in you when you were floundering. Take some joy when others win, be happy for them. Draw some faith that you too will grow with them.

Compassion

Compassion for yourself and others. Humans get all wrapped up in our own inner struggles such that we forget that we are human. We are creatures that learn by explorations. That means we will make mistakes and fail often. This is how we grow as people, societies and every other aspect of being human. It’s a great way to adapt and grow.

The devil in our details is we can become critical of not the failure but the person or persons involved. It becomes a personal issue and we attack the human without remorse. The most damaging part is we withhold our most destructive elements for ourselves. This is why writers must must learn to control our inner voice with compassion for ourselves and those about us.

When we allow ourselves to express our assessments in compassionate terms we can give better guidance and wiser plans for correcting our missteps.
Compassion allows us to reach our ability to be objective when we receive criticism or need to look at our work critically. It is when we cannot reach our objective mind that we become defensive and destroy our own gains.

What holds the writing path together?

Patience

The answer is a whole lot of patience. Patience comes when we allow ourselves to merge into the work. We embrace the grind to allow our inner urge to move forward to become unbound by time so that we focus on the work. We accept that it will take time for the process to unfold and choose to give the time less value in favor of a greater value to the work itself.

Curiosity

We use our curiosity to pull us into our work by cultivating an open mind that is receptive to the new. The question to look at is how would we see what we are looking at if we were a child. Then we seek to answer that in our work.

Focus

Like steps along a path curiosity inclines us to build our focus which we can use in our work to block out thoughts of other things to induce a flow. Nothing abnormal in this process. Once we start with one part we move to include the rest.

Deferred Gratification

Deferring gratification is often one of the hardest steps in a world where instant everything is not so much an ideal anymore than a way of life. A famous comedian and author Jim Mendrinos once summed it up as, “No one wants to write. Everyone wants to have written.” That is a profound statement at the heart of why every writer must work to grow their ability to defer gratification.

Writers always want ways to be done yesterday, but the only way to succeed, regardless of how skilled we become at the craft, will always be the grind to get the work done. The process of writing will always take more time than we would rather. Being able to defer gratification is critical to our success.

Scale Your Process

One way to defer gratification is to skip waiting for the reward of a finished project by breaking down the larger work into smaller steps with rewards for completing those steps instead of working for the finnish of the larger work.

Will

Will power is a limited force in us. Even with building it over time we deplete it constantly as the day goes on. Many writers structure their days such that they save their largest reserve of will for the time they write. In this case the skill is found in an awareness and understanding of yourself. That self knowledge helps them to conserve more will power and allows them the will to write even if they must write late at night after a long day of will depleting obstacles behind them.

Gamification

The best way around this one I have found save will power is to make a game of limiting the times I use will power before I sitdown to write. Play to limit the times you have to make choices. You can save will power by simplifying your choices throughout the day. Steve Jobs used limited his wardrobe to his famous black turtlenecks and slacks for this reason. You can also use routines to get through the mundane issues of the day from how you workout to how you clean your house, give yourself some easy out answers for repetitive situations like what to eat for breakfast, and so on.

Permission

One of the crazier ideas I have run across is to give yourself permission in advance of a choice to go with your favorite choice or your gut. For instance you know you will be going out to dinner. Give yourself permission to have desert or to remove your normal calorie restrictions instead of having to make a choice about what you eat in the moment. Take the pressure off of choosing. You could even be detailed with exactly what you are going to choose with an option for availability or just choosing another thing on a whim. The point is to enjoy an evening free of choice.

I will add that is not an excuse for dietary debauchery every day of the week or some other kind of destructive habit, but the occasional use can really save on worry issues that deplete your will power.

Mental Toughness

Mentally tough is what we get as we work with these skills. We learn to eliminate random desires and choices so that our desires are naturally limited to those habits and things that will give us the writing results we most want. This is much like the practice circles a swordsman uses. As his skill grows the smaller the ring he can work in to limit his ability to move. The smaller the ring the greater his skill. That is how we grow mentally tough when we remove those things that do not add to our skills as writer. We become more proficient with less options and room to move.

Endurance

As we improve our mental toughness we increase our ability to endure hardship. That allows us to channel our energy and skills to endure adversity, injustice and indifference. All three are common fodder for the writing field. A writer fights these demons both in the mind from the inner critic as well as the world at large.

Focus

While you can focus on any given attribute to improve yourself and your work, they all come into play all the time with every step up the mountain.

The Writer’s take away

Have no fear. As long as you continue to simply build your writing practice you will build on the skills for all the gates the rest of your writing life. May it be a long one.

Try some writer’s Humility

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Mastery It’s Not What You Think

Mastery is often thought of as a place or level we get to. It’s a little different really.

Working on mastery

A while ago I was working through another BTL (Built to Lead, Chet Scott) article. I love Scott’s stuff. He makes you think. In my case often by evoking a kind of denial or anger when he hits the mark too close to one of my own thoughts. This time he was talking of mastery. What touched me off was his comment that “The enemy of mastery is thinking you know it already.”

Part of me woke up. I took Scott’s meaning as just talking about avoidance and was partly wrong. That part of my mind raising the commotion did not stop with understanding. It protested instead. “Does not such a mindset also harm? Does this line of thinking not harm confidence? Do we not say “I’ve got this” when we start out on a new journey?”

I did agree that when we are learning repition is essential. I learned long ago in karate that we humans need to over practice far beyond the phase where we think we know things. Many masters are known to practice in this manner.

Following the masters’ thoughts

My initial rejections were followed by some new thoughts. Steven Pressfield said he dealt with a criticism of his work by his editor. Shawn Coyne had returned Pressfield’s manuscript with ten needed edits. He had an instant flutter of frustration. There was noting he could agree with. I could see the parallels I had here.

Adjust to mastery time

Instead of just attacking the critique, Pressfield chose to allow himself time to adjust and see the possibilities. Over a few weeks he found some of the changes made sense and he could deal with them. As he progressed over several more weeks he whittled down his arguments against the changes. His emotions died down and his mind wrapped itself about the issues from his more clear frame of reference.

Pressfield has mastered the professional mindset allowing him to deal with things from a less emotional state. Taking more time allows his mind work through the data set. I decided to let my mind work through the data set that with Scott’s line of thought by going with Pressfield’s approach to let it sit a bit before I did my BTL writing on the article.

Results

By the time I sat down I could, like Pressfield, already see how the change up thinking worked in learning situations. I had already come to the agreement that there is no going over old stuff without something new coming out of it. All new stuff is the result of old stuff. You cannot have the new without a solid and regular repeated exposure to the old.

It occurred to me that I had run into this before. I had talked to my youngest daughter about learning new things and the secret to kata found through kaizen, never ending practice. I had told her, “When you learn something new from another person, you learn something that was found in somebody else’s mind. When you learn something knew from your own mind and the connections you made with old material, you create something new that you can give the world.”

New thought

That memory brought up a new thought. ‘Are you a giver or a taker?’

When we learn, we are the takers. We look for the thoughts and ideas of others. When we move into a more giving mode of mind, we look deeper into the material to find new connections that we can give to the world.

Mastery is process

Taking a break allowed me a new take on concepts I already possessed. Mastery is not an end of a process. It is the process. We kill that process when we think about the material we are looking at in the wrong way. Scott could not be more right than “The enemy of mastery is thinking you know it already.”

Scott’s mastery solution

To combat this enemy mindset Scott reminded me in a new way that we should never tell ourselves, or anyone else for that matter, “I know that, I didn’t really learn anything new, or give me something new.” In its stead Scott offered a great mantra:

“I’ve a lot to learn, I’ve found the melody line, and now I am after a thousand nuances and then a thousand more.”

This is the heart of mastery. You don’t learn new things. You learn the details of what you thought you knew.

Mastery lesson

In life, whether that is on a dojo floor or at the keyboard late in the afternoon struggling to get through another article on time, we never stop learning. Most of that learning will be influenced by what we have already learned. The deep learning all comes from what we have already learned. There is always something new to learn in old stuff we think we already know. We find it in the nuances.

Mastery is a deliberate practice in the mundane where we strive to learn what we did not learn before. The only path to mastery is through the grind down the well trod path of what we already know. Looking for those nuances is where we find the joy of our practice.

Gain mastery

Writers of all levels can optimize our own learning on the path to mastery. Here are a few suggestions to add to your path.

Your job.

Not all jobs are writing based, but when choosing work you should look at possibilities beyond the financial ones when possible to open yourself to more learning that will improve your writing skills. Consider such options as a low paying startup job, unpaid internships, and opportunities to follow a mentor.

Just because you have to hold a full time job in another non writing field does not mean many of these opportunities are not still on the table. Some of them can be done on a limited bases such as evenings, weekends or even for two weeks of vacation. You can also look into online work as well. The point is to find a way to add to your mastery practice. You will not find one if you do not open yourself up to try.

Those you know.

Jim Rohn is famous for saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” He is right. We might not be the average of our five closest friends and acquaintances, but those around us do shape our attitudes and habits. Choosing some people who share your desire to become better writers to hang with is a wise investment in your path to mastery of this wondrous craft. Look for people you can learn from. Get comfortable with the idea that you are not the smartest in your circle. Being dumb allows you to ask the dumb questions you might otherwise avoid and suffer from the lost opportunity to fill in a gap.

Attitude adjustment chamber.

Pride and ego are a tag team bent on destroying your education. When we are learning we need to ask stupid questions and even accept looking foolish for one really good reason. We don’t really know something. Not asking stupid questions holds us back and is the most foolish reason for failure ever, especially when the answer is right there for the asking and the only cost is the posibility of looking foolish or feeling stupid. On should never feel ashamed for saying, “I still don’t get it” for the third time. Writing mastery demands that we get it. There is no deadline or award for getting it in record time. We just need to get it. Cultivate an attitude that is fearless before negative feedback and failure.

The mastery wrap up

The writer’s path to mastery is the same as mastery of any field. Once we have learned what to do, we grind through our lessons ten thousand times finding the nuances till we find nothing more to learn. So far no one has proved Hemingway wrong, we work in an endeavor that has no master, but one in which all aspire to being one in. Welcome to the path.

Want to read more on the writer’s path? Try this article: Writing with Self-Confidence

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